When
it is comes to communication, the biggest challenge for all of us is to know
how we handle an important conversation with grace and maintain a cordial
relationship. Sometimes we witness a conversation becoming shrewd, aggressive,
deceptive and we wish if they were honest in what they just said. Most of the
time we think the content of the message should be good, Not true completely. “Intent
precedes content”, meaning when your intentions are right and mutually benefiting then
for sure your conversation becomes pleasing.
How
do we typically handle crucial conversation?
We
can avoid them,
We
can face and handle them poorly,
We
can face them and handle them well.
Have
you noticed when it matters most, we do our worst, that is because our emotions
don’t exactly prepare us to converse effectively? We are our worst enemies—and
we don’t realize it.
First
focus on what we really want?
Anytime
a conversation turns to be selfish then for sure the disagreement level gets
higher resulting to contempt. “When we are not prepared for a healthy
communication we move to a silence or violence mode"
What
do we mean?
Silence
Masking: consists
of understanding or selectively showing our true opinions. Example Sarcasm and couching
Avoiding: involves
steering completely away from sensitive subjects.
Withdrawing:
means pulling out of a conversation altogether
Violence
Controlling:
where we use all power to control the conversation and turn it to our favor.
Labeling:
when we label a person with a negative remark in order to show us superior or
turn things to our favor.
Attacking: When
all effort is taken to attack with words in order to win the situation and get
the person out of the track.
The
quality of your communication depends upon the state of your heart and that
again depends upon your relationship with God and with people. Thomas
Merton puts it beautifully, “We are not at
peace with others because we are not at peace with ourselves, and we are not at
peace with ourselves because we are not at peace with God”. Let us be
conscious to be graceful yet assertive.”. Bring positivity and healing through
your communication
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