Are you living with regrets?

 

In an article ‘Negative Memories May Be More Vivid Than Happy Ones’ by Jennifer Warner explains how our brain could retain more than usual. It describes how bad events and incidents are retained in our brain for longer period and recalled more easily and in greater detail than good ones. Negative emotions like fear and sadness trigger increased activity in a part of the brain linked to memories. These emotionally charged memories are preserved in greater detail than happy or more neutral memories, but they may also be subject to distortion.

The study of psychology states that the greater power of bad events over good ones is found in everyday events, major life events (e.g., trauma), close relationship outcomes, social network patterns, interpersonal interactions, and learning processes. Bad emotions, bad parents, and bad feedback have more impact than good ones. Bad information is processed more thoroughly than good. Bad impressions and bad stereotypes are quicker to form and more resistant to disconfirmation than good ones.

The outcome of all the bad happenings and events including our faltering, and mistakes we commit not only linger in our mind as memories, but it confines us to live with regrets that impacts our present. Living with regrets is not only the bad happenings or expectations deprived, but the mistakes we intentionally and unintentionally commit. Our past affects the present happiness. And to manage the same we use our power to lead a selfish life, ignoring the realities of life. In the process we hurt God and constantly hurt each other.

When we intentionally wrong others, we smother the guilt and start displaying more erroneous behaviour to an extent that we become numb to other person’s feelings and emotions. Such are not just a behaviour deficit or mere deviations as the world tags it but sinning against God and hurting God. God’s words as recorded in the Bible says, “But one who sins against me injures himself; All those who hate me love death”.   Injuring oneself means living a life with restlessness and regret which are the effects of sin.

We just cannot overlook our past mistakes and happenings. Well, I am not talking about the philosophy of Karma, where one may not be present there at all. But I am referring to a past where one in his/her full consciousness makes mistakes and commits sin that it stays with the person as a form of guilt. When we approach the judgement seat of God, as the Bible records, Christ Jesus will judge both the living and dead, we will be found guilty and judged to an extent that we will perish in eternal fire. This is not a fairy tale stories but is factual and evidential because the Bible talks about Jesus who is the only God incarnated, rose from the dead. Therefore, all that He said about Heaven and Hell is true.

You can reconcile with your past if you confess your sins and your wrongdoings to Jesus the Savior, living a guilt-free life without any regrets, lasting peace, hope and spreading genuine unselfish love for one-another.

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Reference:

https://www.webmd.com/brain/news/20070829/bad-memories-easier-to-remember