Have you noticed people who just live for themselves and have nothing to do with people around them? Sometimes you would assume such people need not have anything to do with you because they are strangers. But what if they happen to be one of your family members or your loved one? For example, spouses, children, siblings and close friends who turn out to be selfish and indifferent.
We live in a world where people use one another at their fullest convenience including your own people. Every act turns out to be selfish and you wonder if they even care. It all starts right from a very young age where babies learn to have it their own way. Though I have cited this study several times earlier in my blogs, I want to refer to it once again. Minnesota Crime commission puts their observation beautifully, " Every baby starts life as a little savage. He is completely selfish and self-centered: he wants what he wants—his bottle, his mother's attention, his playmate's toys, his uncle's watch, or whatever. Deny him these and he seethes with rage and aggressiveness which would be murderous were he not so helpless. He is dirty; he has no morals, no knowledge and no developed skills. This means that all children, not just certain children, but all children are born delinquent. If permitted to continue in their self-centered world of infancy, given free reign to their impulsive actions to satisfy each want—every child would grow up a criminal, a killer, a thief, and a rapist."
When it comes to children, parents most of the time tolerate their folly which makes children assume it's their entitlement. This applies in other relationships too. You wonder why your loved ones don't care how much you love or understand what you go through? Life changes over a period in any relationship. Suddenly one of the parties thinks they no longer need anyone for various reasons. The heart is unpredictable by itself. It can revolt anytime and offend the loved ones without having any guilt. They would come up with sufficient reasons to give you why they behave the way they did.
Human heart is wretched and selfish, controlled by self and ego. People can have no clue how life can change in a split second although to some extent people are aware they don't have a guarantee for their next breath. Yet they behave puffed up with vain pride and arrogance. At times all you can do in such a situation is to allow such person to live by themselves. There is a possibility that consequences of their behavior may alert them but, in the meantime, pray for the change in heart.
Cognitive psychologists talk about emotional tank. They state when it is drained, people react in a particular way and therefore there is a bigger need to ensure it is always filled with love to the brim. But then which love are they referring to? There are different ways to fill that emotional tank. But unless Christ's love fills the human heart, man would continue to wander and live like a beast. Jesus diagnosing the human heart stated this "For from the heart come evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, sexual immoralities, thefts, false testimonies, slander. These are the things that defile a person..." (Matthew 15:19-20 Bible) The human heart is an idol factory. Rosaria Butterfield puts this so nicely, "One very difficult aspect of sin is that my sin never feels like sin to me. My sin feels like life to me, plain and simple. My heart is an idol factory, and my mind is an excuse-making factory.".
If you are that wretched person who cares sporadically, love intermittently, controlled often by mood swings and emotions then you need help. You need a Saviour, a God of love. The Bible states "This hope will not disappoint us, because God’s love has been poured out in our hearts through the Holy Spirit who was given to us." (Romans 5:5 Bible). When you make room for this God, the spirit of Jesus Christ will indwell your heart to transform your emotional condition and fill you with love and peace.
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