Hide and Seek - is that your relationship game?

 

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Increasingly, I have come to observe that relationships are becoming less and less intentional, genuine, voluntary, honest and truthful. It's becoming more on need basis. Only if we benefit from that person, do we even take the time to connect with them. I am not sure if we should call this superficiality or the 'new-normal' etiquette, but it has a name. It's called selfishness.  Sadly, the poor, the needy and the vulnerable are left with no choice but to accommodate this behavior. How we relate with each other reveals a lot about the person we are and has a direct connotation of how we treat and relate with God.

The new behavior may be the new normal, yet it is unbecoming. People either avoid speaking to one another directly or substitute through social platforms. We choose our circle, customize relationship to our expectations and use it to our favor. In all of this we fail to realise that the binding factor in a relationship is love. Its starkly missing and has made relationships artificial. A writer in one of the book in the Bible, inspired by God writes, "Don’t just pretend to love others. Really love them.". 

The direct implication is love for God overflows as love for people. No wonder Jesus summed up all the laws and commandment in two greatest commandments, 'and you must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, all your mind, and all your strength.’. When this is done genuinely from a clean heart, the second commandment, love your neighbors as yourself is spontaneous and intentional. This will undoubtedly reflect in our honest love for others.

Relationship need not always be business oriented and a self-profiting deal. It has to be honest and a genuine reflection of the love of God. Only Bible estimates this and states, 'God is love'. In its true sense, Jesus demonstrated His love on the cross of Calvary for the sins of mankind. And we find salvation believing Him and living with a transformed new self. Jesus is the embodiment of love. When we accept His lordship and follow Him, the love and respect for each other reflects in all areas of our life.

Are you avoiding or too ashamed to connect with people to maintain honest communication? I am not talking about connecting with someone who is abusive and manipulative, but with those who are in our sphere of influence and in our circle.  It is actually rude and manipulative if we are willing to use only social platforms and replace them with actual communication and maintain a relationship. Let us value each other and honor one another. The Bible says, “value others over yourselves.". When we value and estimate others we will be willing to establish genuine relationship by all means.

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